If you know me than you know I’m definitely the, “who all there?” friend. And it has nothing to do with the people there but EVERYTHING to do with me! I consistently say The Most High made a very cruel joke by making me look friendly as all get out, but didn’t install the friendly portion of my personality. Go Figure. However I have no problem making new friends or sparking a conversation with a complete stranger. When I first moved here I met a girl at a bar an we hopped in a Lyft together and hit the club same night. BUT I keep hearing women tell me making friends as an adult (30+) is a no go and with my experiences this is so hard to believe. This weekend I went out with a friend from The Bay that I met through my friend (who’s from Detroit) and we happen to run into some of her friends. Well long story short as I am sitting down talking to these women, I was told that D.C. is super high school clique-ish and that is why it’s hard. If you’re not in the right circles it’s very hard to get invited into these particular circles. She, who was from Detroit, explained she has a tight group because she went to Howard and joined a sorority
I’m coming to the realization that I have the ability to dip and dodge through all circles comfortably, because I never have intentions on staying. If it happens to pan out that we are meant to exchange numbers and carry on the interaction awesome, but if not I’m super cool with that as well! I much rather be a square than try an fight int a circle. This ability to have a great time within the meeting is probably why I have no issues meeting and making friends as an adult but I can also see how it’s not easy. We are older we have our core group of people that we plan to ride with until the end so there’s no need to entertain new ones. They wasn’t with us shootin’ in the gym or getting yelled at by each others parents during adolescents so with that said we are stuck in our ways an ain’t foolin’ with anyone. Does this same rhetoric apply to co workers as well?? I would love to hear from you all in the comments. Is it hard for you to make friends? Keep friends?
